It’s a New Era, Let’s Leave Toxic ‘Misandry’ R&B Fandom Behind.

From Left: Jhene Aiko, SZA, Summer Walker.

Too many R&B albums pander to the worst of the bitter internet misandrist. Nowadays, R&B is often seen as the glorification of toxicity, emotional manipulation, dysfunction, unhealthy relationships, and mental instability. And somehow, nobody wants to address the elephant in the room!

“I Fuck Him ‘Cause I Miss You” is what SZA preaches on her second studio album, SOS. “I Should Have Robbed You. I Should Have Popped You” is what Summer Walker proudly delivers on her third studio album, Finally Over It. Young, impressionable women who somehow can’t seem to find or keep a man relate to this a little too much. It’s giving daddy issues if you ask me.

And then you have performative saints like Kehlani doing Tiny Desk performances, taking time to spread “awareness” for Palestine, Sudan, or Congo, Hawai'i, whatever… while simultaneously promoting a lifestyle of bitterness, emotional instability, and misandry. By the way, doesn’t she still owe Kyrie an apology? Mane, watch out!

But let’s also talk about the one who hides it best: Jhene Aiko, the queen of spiritual toxicity. Jhene will burn sage, align her chakras, whisper affirmations, perform various witchcraft rituals, and then release a song that sounds like a guided meditation for emotional revenge. She makes toxicity feel therapeutic. She stabs you with a smile and diffuses the scene with incense. Her music is soft, but the message is sharp. She’s the poster child behind half the delusional “hurt girls” floating around on the internet. And then ask ourselves why Big Sean refuses to put a ring on her finger.

What makes this situation even worse is the complete lack of accountability. When a man raps about toxicity, cheating, or wild behavior, the whole internet lines up to lecture him. But when women do the same thing, or even worse, it suddenly becomes “relatable” or “queen behavior.” That’s not empowerment. That’s selective morality.

The real problem isn’t just the music, but also the culture that forms around it. You have millions of “hurt girls” conditioning themselves to see relationships as battlegrounds, men as predators, and bitterness as a personality trait. This new R&B wave is teaching women to romanticize trauma instead of outgrowing it. It’s misandry sold as self-love.

Listen, we keep pretending this is just women, ‘’expressing their truth.” But when you have someone like Summer Walker straight up admitting she's here to “drain men” out of their money,  or SZA who advocates for being the ‘’side-chick,’’ we need to ask ourselves why this content is being celebrated at all.

At the end of the day, this is nothing more than a misandry witch-hunt built on destroying the image of men. These artists make dating a man sound like a war crime. You listen long enough and you’d think the average guy is a cheating, lying, gaslighting piece of shit created only to provide trauma. And the amusing part is that none of these women even get along.

Honestly? Therapy for these women and their audience would be a lovely start.